Morning Circle – daily
Every morning at 9:00 AM we’ll gather for appreciations, announcements, and connection. Also, each person will have a brief opportunity (but not a requirement) to check in and share “where they are at.”
Community Sharing Circle – daily
We’ll be using the ZEGG Forum daily to bring out what’s under the surface in our community. Forum (http://www.zegg-forum.org/index_en.phtml) was created at ZEGG, an intentional community in Germany, and its sister communities as a way of promoting transparency and mutual understanding among community members. ZEGG members found that decision-making meetings often got derailed because of emotional conflicts and undercurrents that were not known to or understood by all. In Forum, each individual’s experience could be seen and understood, leading to greater empathy and creativity in the community. Now, many residential and non-residential intentional communities have adopted Forum as a way to maintain ongoing connection, intimacy and understanding.
The goal of Forum is to reveal what is alive but not known to all. The community sits in a circle, forming a stage for one person at a time to stand and show what is true for them. Facilitators may assist the person (or “presenter”) to reveal themselves more deeply. Afterward, community members may offer reflections, or “mirrors,” on what they saw.
One of the gifts of ZEGG Forum is that it allows us a space to appreciate every perspective without taking it on as “truth.” Every voice has its own poignancy, its own wisdom, its own truth, that does not negate the wisdom and truth of other perspectives. Allowing all voices to surface and be known can lead to a profound and unexpected integration within a community. We tend to think that events leading to painful experiences and conflicts are bad, because they feel bad in the moment. However, when we open ourselves and compassionately witness what is happening for everyone, these experiences can be gateways to greater closeness, understanding, and love. When conflict emerges, whether or not we are in a formal Forum space, we can choose to listen in this way. This deep listening sustains and nurtures community life and relationships.
Adult Playspace – Friday, saturday, sunday night
The Playspace is a place for structured and unstructured education and exploration of sensual and sexual issues. This space is a resource for those who wish to make use of it; none of the core workshops will take place in the Playspace. There will be an orientation for people interested in using the Playspace on Saturday evening.
Orientation – Daily
The orientation is a brief but effective introduction to the “culture of consent” that underlies most successful poly relationships and helps create the sense of safety and freedom that characterizes all of our events. Required for all campers on the day they arrive; open to all attendees each day.
Orientation & Jumpstarting Intimacy – Sarah Taub, Friday evening
Who are you? Who am I? Who are we? In this high-energy, interactive workshop, we’ll find out more about the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of everyone present. We’ll explore curiosity and transparency as attitudes and practices that support healthy relationships, whether with lovers, friends, co-workers, or community members. We’ll have some short, fun exercises where people can try out sharing about themselves transparently and asking questions based on curiosity. And we’ll also talk about how curiosity and transparency go along with other attitudes such as compassion, non-attachment, being “at choice”, personal power and responsibility to create a way of relating that many of us think is sustainable, healthy, and reasonably drama-free.
Cultural Competency and Diversity-TBD
Boundaries for a Poly World – Sarah Taub, Saturday morning
Mmm, that glorious moment when we are giving exactly what our partner wants to be receiving! Sometimes we find that “sweet spot” spontaneously—but more often, we find it through clear communication and feedback. How many of us say “yes” to things we don’t actually want out of guilt or a fear of losing connection? In many ways, “no” is the most daring and intimate response possible – if I can hear your “no”, I can trust your “yes.” Let’s practice finding that sweet spot of mutual “yes” —through a series of juicy experiential exercises we’ll offer and/or request touch, negotiate the touch we want, and give verbal and nonverbal feedback on the touch we receive. This practice will serve us well in both sensual and non-sensual contexts, helping us find the space of mutually desired connection that is available with each person.
collaborative lying and listening – bill olsen, saturday afternoon
Communication is done best through collaboration with others. Instead of broadcast (I’ll talk – you listen); what’s needed is teamwork. Communicating poorly leads to misunderstanding, relationship issues, distrust, and broken hearts, as well as missed opportunities for exploring those new relationships. Yes, it’s really hard; yet too often it’s really just your own stuff getting in the way. What stuff? Not “showing” when you ARE listening. Or your personal filters that block it. Or your unwillingness to collaborate. You’ll learn some secrets, expand your awareness, create some lies, and laugh heartily, all while collaborating.
Touch Exploration and Consent – Annie Hopson, Saturday Evening
It’s often apparent when observing physical interactions who is touching and who is being touched. But what happens when we expand and deconstruct the ideas of ‘giving’ and ‘receiving’ touch? It isn’t as straightforward as you might think! In this session, we will be exploring the dynamics of human interaction using touch as a model. We will talk about agreements, pleasure, and the gift of touch. You will learn how to increase awareness of your desires and limits along with how to communicate what you want. At the same time, you will make your own touch into a more present, satisfying and downright delicious experience. And nobody is required to touch another individual in this touch workshop.
Intro to playspace – Sarah taub & Annie Hopson, saturday evening
The Playspace is a warm and inviting space to explore Connection & Intimacy by engaging all of the senses. This is a space to lounge together after spending the day learning communication and intimacy tools – the perfect place to practice communication and share affection in a relaxed and sex positive atmosphere. We will give an introduction to the space and we will practice the “Safe Sex Elevator Speech.”
After the Playspace Orientation, those who wish will proceed to the Playspace for its official opening. All are invited to explore the Playspace – the opening activities will be sensual but nonsexual, and the Playspace Team will create a clear transition when the space becomes open for sexual connection.
Neurodiversity – Michael Rios & Dawson Driver, Sunday Morning
Contact Improv – Indigo Dawn, Sunday Morning
There lives inside of you an ever-burning flame; a noiseless song that your body sings. Have you ever stopped to listen? In this workshop, we will listen deeply to ourselves and others. We will craft dances that exist to be felt, rather than performed. We will play, express, and connect through movement. We will speak without words.
Cultural Fishbowl – Sarah Taub, Sunday afternoon
POLY SKILL SHARE – tbd
New to polyamory? Got questions? “Old hand” at polyamory? Got answers? Join us for this daily skillshare on the promises and perils of diving into ethical, loving non-monogamy! Poly Skill Share will explore many techniques for enhancing our abilities to have rich, satisfying, and durable relationships. Topics will include communication skills, emotional intelligence, love languages, and much more.
Authentic relating games – indigo dawn & dawson driver, sunday evening
Who are you? Who am I? Who are we? In this high-energy, interactive workshop, we’ll find out more about the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of everyone present. We’ll explore curiosity and transparency as attitudes and practices that support healthy relationships, whether with lovers, friends, co-workers, or community members. We’ll have some short, fun exercises where people can try out sharing about themselves transparently and asking questions based on curiosity. Our time together will develop our empathy, deepen our relationships, and help us connect as our most authentic selves.
keeping the channels clear – sarah taub, monday morning
Completion Circle – Monday Afternoon
Honoring the experience of the past four days, we will connect, reflect, and bid farewell to this incarnation of our community.
Open Sessions – Monday afternoon
Join in as the group uses Open Space Technology to organize concurrent events inspired by your own passions and interests. Open Sessions are an opportunity for campers to convene dialogue groups on topics they’ve been wanting to explore, or create group massages, do a music jam together, and much more. Participants are free to move from session to session, honoring their instincts and natural enthusiasm. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Open_Space_Technology